6 Tips to Prioritize Yourself Without Feeling Guilty

April 13, 2022

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Making a commitment to prioritize yourself is not easy.  But it’s the one thing I get asked about more than anything from the women I work with. And I’m glad they’re asking! I’m glad you’re asking!

You know you need to prioritize yourself; you just don’t know how to do it without feeling guilty about it. Putting yourself first means putting everything else second. Right?

Wrong! When you prioritize yourself, you set yourself up to be even more committed to everything and everyone else you need to support and give attention to. When your needs are taken care of, you can truly focus on others.

Shift your Mindset: believe you deserve to prioritize yourself

If you are going to start taking the time to prioritize yourself, you need to start shifting your mindset.  You know you need this time, you crave this time.  But now you also need to believe you deserve this time. 

What we believe about ourselves, and what we believe we deserve, can be the hardest shift to make. But if we truly want to shed the guilt we feel when we do prioritize ourselves, we have to start here. One thing that will help, is recognize that taking time for yourself has a ripple effect.

Recognize the ripple effect when you prioritize yourself

When you take time for yourself you feel rejuvenated and energized.  Whatever you do, it should be something truly just for you, something you enjoy (more on that next).  Afterwards, you can be more focused on the other tasks on your to do list. You can be more present with the people you are spending time with. 

Discover something you enjoy

So you’re on board, you are ready to take some time on yourself.  But you have no idea what to do. Don’t let this stop you! 

There are two things to consider.  One, find something new you enjoy.  I have a girlfriend who started playing tennis as a way to get out of the house, meet people, and stay active.  Now she’s playing a few days a week and traveling with her team to compete.  If you try something once and don’t like it, that’s okay.  It doesn’t have to be a lifelong commitment.

The second options is to return to something you loved as a child. Were you a budding artist as a kid? Go grab a paint set at Michael’s.  Did you love to curl up with a good book? Stop by the library and pick out a few books to try.

Create a personal routine

One of the ways you can start prioritizing yourself is to create a morning or evening.  Routines don’t have to take a lot of time. It can be just a few minutes. You can spend the time reading, journaling, meditating, or going for a walk. One of my evening routines is to read for a few minutes before bed. Some nights I also take a few minutes to journal.  Both of these activities help me relax and unwind from the day.  I get a better night sleep and in turn, I’m more focused the next day. (See that ripple effect?)

Put it on your to-do list

We can have every intention in the world to take time for ourselves.  But then we get too busy and it’s the first thing to go.  One way to avoid this is to put your activity on your to-do list or on your calendar.  Prioritizing yourself should be just as important as going to the grocery store. 

When we are working on a new routine, before it becomes second nature, scheduling it can help. Set a reminder in your phone 30 minutes before bed to remind yourself to go read.  Block off 20 minutes at lunch time to go for a walk. If you are really going to start prioritizing yourself, you need to give it a high level of importance.

State your needs clearly to others

You have decided what you’re going to do to prioritize yourself.  But now you need to let the other people in your life know this is a priority.  I think it’s important to tell the people who depend on you what you need.  Let them know how you plan to spend time for yourself.  Ask them to respect this time and not bother you.  Explain why it’s important.  Not sure what to say? Try this:

Starting this week, I am going to {activity}.  I am going to do it {when/how long}. It’s important to me to take this time for myself.  It will enable me to be more present and focused when I’m with you. All I ask is that you let me focus during this time.

The most important impact of prioritizing yourself is that it helps you avoid burnout.  The activity you choose should feel like a break in the craziness of life.  It’s something that allows you to focus inward, to connect with yourself.  Whether you want to relax or recharge, take the time to put yourself first.  You won’t regret it.

If you want a few more tips on how to avoid that burnt out feeling, download my free audio training today!

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I'm Abby

Filling my days with joy, adventure, and chasing my dreams without feeling burnt out. Read on for how I make it happen and how you can, too!

categories

avoiding burnout

time management

finding joy

mindset

popular posts

Signs of Burnout

Time Management Tips

Celebrate Your Progress

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